Charms are Trending

I realize this kind of plays off of my post last week but today I’m going to talk about charm bracelets and charm necklaces, jewelry with meaning. Tons of brands have become famous because of their charm bracelets, think Pandora, and even Trollbeads have that charm theme. Many people wear charms or pendants on a necklace but now people are wearing multiples just like bracelets. This isn’t new but I am seeing it more and more. On Thursday of this week Melanie Auld launched her Adorned adornedline in partnership with Jillian Harris. First, I love Melanie Auld and her jewelry line. Basically, whatever she does, I want. I have four rings of hers and am hoping to add an Adorned charm necklace soon. It’s a super clever and thoughtful campaign. They simply ask #whatsyourwhy? Check out the video on the home page of her site to hear them talk about the campaign and what their why is! For now here is what I’m planning on buying when the time is right….I want them to add some kind of kitty charm to the collection!

I think many of us grew up coveting our mother’s or grandmother’s charm bracelets. I believe they were big with those generations. Not so much with mine but they are making a comeback! I love anything with sentimental value or meaning so a few years ago I got my special charms/pendants together and assembled my own charm bracelet. I had a gold bracelet and just bought gold jump rings online. From making beaded jewelry I figured I had the skills to put it all together myself. Honestly, anyone with no skills could have done it! When I was done I was so happy with it. I made sure to not add any pendants that I might still want to wear more often on a necklace. It only has six charms and it’s on a smaller bracelet chain than I think you’d normally use for a charm bracelet but it works.

charm bracelet

Each piece has meaning – DUH – of course right? The guardian angel as my mother was/is into them when I was growing up and don’t we all hope there is a special angel watching over us at all times? The heart locket that was a piece given to me when I was little (I can’t remember why though), it has a pretty engraved design on it but no photos inside; the tennis racket as I wanted to move to Florida when I was in my early teens and practice at the Nick Bollettiere tennis academy and wear Diadora just like Jennifer Capriati (I WORSHIPPED her); the seashell for my love of the beach; my Chautauqua bell tower for my favorite summer vacation place as a kid and let’s face it as an adult even though I haven’t been in years (boo), you could have the time on the bell tower clock engraved with your birthday – how cool is that?! You can barely see it in the photo but the time is 2:21. Finally, a ruby heart and again not sure why this was given to me as a kid but it’s so cute. I don’t wear the bracelet as often as I should only because it’s hard to put on by myself.

Then when I decided to write this I realized I had another charm bracelet! These types of bracelets were popular when I was living in California. I haven’t worn it in forever probably because it’s not really ‘”in style” anymore but really who cares?! I think I’m going to wear it today.

I see a theme in this one along with my traditional bracelet….this one also has a tennis ball and a seashell. I have a few from places I’ve been, Italy, the San Diego Zoo, Hawaii. A pink ribbon for my mom for being a breast cancer survivor, the Golden Gate bridge from living in San Francisco. And the funniest one that I don’t even remember getting. It says Bling Bling – how hysterical is that!??!! Just goes to show this jewelry thing has been in the works for a long time and I didn’t even know it. Hi Universe. Yes I’m still listening!

I love to hear the meaning behind jewelry. Share pics of your charm bracelet with your story and I’ll post them on my IG! You can send them via DM on IG or via email at

Happy Saturday my jewelry loving peeps!
Mary Green #goldbygreen



Jewelry as Mementos

I have talked before about how I love jewelry not only for the sparkle but also for the meaning. Pieces remind me of birthdays, holidays, travel and relatives. Today I wore my grandmother’s gold and diamond cross on a long gold chain. She wasn’t able to open and close the clasp because of the arthritis in her hands so she had it put on the chain and it just slips over my head and the clasp  is soldered closed. I wear it when I need a little extra “umph” in my day. Last night I made an unexpected trip to the emergency vet so I wore it today in hopes that the little nugget really was okay. She is fine. But she is sneezing like an old man! Kitty allergies? Who knew?! (Note this was written on Wednesday, April 10th)

Nicholas kittenWe adopted the nugget almost a year ago because we had lost Ridiculous Nicholas a few months before that. We adopted him in the spring of 2010 so we only had him a little less than seven years. Growing up the cats in my family lived to be 20! It was really painful and I was really sad. The weekend after I was at home by myself and I said screw it I’m going shopping! I’m not really a shopper to make myself feel better. I’m too cheap for that. So I put on my cat socks – yes I’m a 40 (something) year old woman who wears cat socks. I admit it!

I went into town and went into South Moon Under. I didn’t go in to look at clothes or shoes. I went in to look for jewelry. Duh. As soon as I saw the sale rack I knew I was buying SOMETHING. I found an awesome pair of earrings that I would get a lot of wear out of and they were 10 bucks. SOLD. A nice young gentleman checked me out and I  was on my way. Onto the next store.

Next I went into Sole. They always have fun jewelry of all kinds in all price ranges. Best of all what I consider “my price range.” There were a bunch of rings that had been there for a while and I had been eyeing them a year and a half earlier. I didn’t buy one at the time and never really thought about it again. On this day though I was on a mission. I tried on different sizes, color stones and shapes of this one style of ring. There were green pears, blue squares and clear rounds. I finally settled on a light brown almost clear square stone. All were set in “gold” and the one I chose fit my ring finger. I was super pleased with both of my purchases that day.

The next day I was standing at my kitchen counter next to where I had set my treasures. I looked over at the receipt for my earrings. I thought to myself, are you kidding me? The nice young man, as my mother likes to say about people my age although who am I kidding he looked 12, who rang me up….his name was Nicholas. WHOA!!! I literally stood there in utter disbelief. I would have expected Nick from a nice young man. But Nicholas? The universe had spoken and I was listening. To be honest I’m not sure what she was saying to me but I was paying attention. I like to think she was telling me my boy was now fine and not in any pain and my purchases were spot on.

The week of the one year anniversary of losing Ridiculous Nicholas I wore the ring every day. And I totally CRUSHED on it every day. I wore the earrings I had purchased and the bracelet that had been sent to me from a dear friend in his memory. This is what I mean about jewelry having meaning. It really hurt to lose him but having these little mementos make me smile and remind me how ridiculous Nicholas really was. I even opened up to someone at work in a different department about having started my blog and the purpose behind the ring I was wearing that day in memory of my cat. For me that was a risk because while I knew she was cool I really wasn’t sure if she’d think I was crazy. She was completely understanding about it and we talked about jewelry for 10 minutes.

To see him and all of his ridiculousness check out his Instagram photo album by looking at #ridiculousnicholas.

Meow, meow, meow,
Mary Green #goldbygreen aka #crazycatlady AND PROUD OF IT!


April = Diamond

I have talked before that I didn’t really want a diamond until it was time to get a diamond. Ever since then, Frank says I need a knuckle extension. I mean let’s be honest, nothing sparkles like a diamond! That is because diamond is truly a one of a kind gem. It’s the only gem made up of one element, carbon. It’s about 99.5% carbon and the other .05% is made up of trace elements that influence color and shape.


This is the month for diamonds! April’s birthstone is diamond so I thought this was a great blog topic. Most people have heard of the 4 c’s when it comes to diamonds: cut, color, clarity and carat. If you don’t know much about these and want to learn more check out Stephanie Gottlieb’s Diamonds 101 series on YouTube. Her quick videos are easy to watch and understand. She just did one on marquise and pear shapes which, of course, I loved! She says this is one cut that helps elongate the finger and isn’t as popular right now. It’s for the girl who wants something a little different which I did even though like I have also mentioned before I picked out the same ring as my mother-in-law without knowing it at the time!

I saw an Instagram post recently in which someone asked one of the jewelers I follow about synthetic diamonds so I thought I’d do a little research on this and colored diamonds instead of getting further into the 4 c’s.

Synthetic diamonds, also knows as lab grown or man made, are actually real diamonds they are just made through an artificial process versus real diamonds which are made through a geological process and are typically found 100 miles below the earth’s surface. Synthetic diamonds have the same chemical composition which is why they are considered real and not fake. There is nothing wrong with these diamonds as long as it’s disclosed to a buyer that they are synthetic. They also go through the same grading process as natural diamonds.

Any true Sex and the City fan knows of black diamonds. Big gave one to Carrie at the end of the second movie. She asked why black and he responded, “because you’re not like anyone else.” Black diamonds can be natural, man made or treated. All are considered real. Natural black diamonds are rare. They are an impure form of pollycrystaline diamond consisting of diamond, amorphous carbon and graphite. It’s basically a white diamond with a high number of graphite inclusions which gives them their black appearance. They have the same meaning and symbolism as white diamonds. They are found in Brazil and Central Africa.

Fancy color diamonds get their color from impurities and defects in their structure. Intense heat and pressure, nitrogen, boron, the absorption of naturally occurring radiation and possible hydrogen affect a diamond’s color; not all of those at once but one attribute affects one color. For example, blue diamonds are affected by boron.


This science is so much more fun than the many (too many!) biologies and chemistries I took in college!

Diamonds are also the symbol for the 60th and 75th wedding anniversaries. I’m hoping they are also representative of lucky #13 (in October).

Mary Green #goldbygreen



I Forgot…I’ve Been Making Jewelry Since the 6th Grade!

This jewelry journey, as I’ve said many times already, has taken me on a few different paths. I said from the beginning when I started to explore possibilities I do not want to design my own pieces. Fast forward a few months and oh how that has changed. I’m dying to have my own pieces brought to life. I’m working on that now. I find it hysterical at how bad I am at drawing! I’d say I’m around a kindergarten level artist. But I think I can get my point across with my less than basic skills.

So as I am thinking about this it takes me back to 6th grade. I literally remember sitting in Mr. Smith’s class wearing my handmade earrings. I crafted them out of cardboard or poster board or a think paper material like that and earring hooks. Man I WISH I still had them! I think I made a few pairs. Apparently I was crafty back then. Who knew Gold by Green was really created around 30 years ago! If only I had business cards made then.

Flash forward to us living in Huntington Beach around 2004-2005. I have no idea how I got into beading. My aunt has made tons of jewelry beading and maybe that sparked it? I really can’t remember but there was this cool little beading shop on my way home from work. I had the best time looking through stones and beads of all colors and sizes and matching them up for different designs.

I made necklaces and a few pairs of earrings. I freakin’ loved it! I even sold some! The Laguna Beach Art Museum put some in their shop! In all honesty though I never sold any there. Boo. I made all of my bridesmaids necklaces as gifts. I even thought I’d make my wedding earrings. I made two very similar prototypes and loved them both. However, when it came down to it I decided both were (way) too big and never finished either pair. earringsEvery now and then I look at them and think they are so pretty but not sure I could complete them today. I was just a tad more patient then. Which is really shocking considering I had to drive to and from work every day on the 405. People here in Rehoboth complain about summer traffic. And I do it, too (mostly because the out of town drivers are just so bad!), but really if you have never driven in California, especially Southern CA, you don’t know traffic.

Anyway, my point is that it really shouldn’t surprise me that I want to design pieces. And I’m excited to have this realization that I have already created my own designs! As I’m going through this new process I am finding my aesthetic more and more. First, I know I am a pear girl. Thanks Jessica Simpson (see previous post My Engagement Ring Confessions)! I have a lot of pear cut pieces. And as I was proofing this I noticed every necklace above and the earrings all have pear cut stones! When I decided on that for my engagement ring I never thought it would continue on and on an on! Regarding specific stones, I have been thinking a lot about moonstone from the beginning. It’s hot right now. Everyone is making pieces with moonstone. The colors in it are just radiant. The glowing whites and blues are like none you’ve ever seen when captured in really good lighting.

What is surprising is this piece of moss agate I came across. I am obsessed. It is white, clear, green and even has a tiny bit of orange. It’s so gorgeous. And it’s not something I would have thought I wanted to use. But of course I HAVE to make something that is based around greens….set in gold (plate) — in my head I’m losing my sh*t!

So….exciting stuff at this point!

Stay tuned. Stay golden. And stay green! It’s St. Patrick’s day today after all!
Mary Green #goldbygreen


Cheers to My Tribe #IWD2018

International Women’s Day was this past week. It’s always celebrated on March 8. I was lucky enough to be part of a team that hosted an event locally honoring women making a difference in our community and we had two amazing keynote speakers, Delaware’s Congresswoman Lisa Blunt Rochester and Michelle Freeman. The room was filled with amazing energy. The theme of our (not so) little cocktail party, not planned, seem to be around authenticity and who’s in your tribe per our speakers. I like to think I’m authentic. I know my tribe is awesome.

So in an attempt to be authentic I have decided to invite you all along onquote my jewelry journey a little more. I previously wrote a little about how this journey started with the blog but there is more behind that. At first this journey was totally clear. And one thing I was clear on was that I didn’t want to design my own jewelry. But like I wrote before, the universe works in mysterious ways. A few twists and turns, speed bumps as I also like to call them, caused me to reevaluate what I wanted. And overnight my vision completely changed. All of a sudden I wanted to design my own jewelry. In the middle of the night, with just the TV for light, I drew out 15 pieces of jewelry. A few necklaces, bracelets, earrings; ironically I think only one or two rings!  Some silver, some gold, lots of drusies. I even wrote out the guest list for the launch party! I do LOVE to throw a good party! It was all very clear. I get very excited to think of the possibilities but I also get very overwhelmed in the how the hell can I pull this off? There are lots and I mean LOTS of boxes to be checked. The biggest being, I don’t make jewelry! But throw it out to the universe and see what comes back. That is where I am right now. It might happen. It might not. But you’ve gotta just keep on keepin’ on. I keep telling myself, “It’s never too late to be what you might have been,” by George Eliot. This has been my favorite quote for YEARS.

This journey has been ongoing for a few months and the blog was the first big step along with the Gold by Green Instagram account. I get tons of joy out of both so that is something that motivates me! We walked into our favorite Italian sandwich shop yesterday and Robin who works there told me she read my blog. I wanted to jump across the counter and hug her! We got in the car and I told my husband that just made my day! When I think about this journey and how to move forward I was inspired by that energy I mentioned at our Girls Night Out event in honor of International Women’s Day. I thought this was the perfect time to thank my tribe! I have bounced ideas off of friends and asked if I can pick their brains over coffee, worked with a mentor, reached out to jewelers on Instagram with questions and it got me thinking how cool it is that so many women are willing to give you advice if you just ask!

Women supporting women is powerful and helps us all move forward.
I even said it last week at the event!

I’ve tagged the ladies who have helped me so far along the way in the IG post promoting this blog post! Even though not all are on IG they should know who they are. Rock on ladies and thank you!

If an awesome lady helped you along the way give them a shout out here or tell me who inspires you in your every day life! Do you work to inspire others? Tell me all about it!

Cheers ladies,
Mary Green


Necklace hell….

I recently got a text from a coworker that started with: I need HELP!!! I thought it was a work text and was like OH LORD WHAT HAPPENED?! Then when I saw it was sent to: Gold by Green I was like oh cool this is something I can handle! Not that I can’t handle work problems but let’s be real for me this is actually fun.

Necklaces are probably the worst to store, pack for travel, move – well you get the idea. Here is my first PSA: the following photo is a big no-no. rachel necklacesFor any kinda jewelry! Obviously for necklaces or bracelets that aren’t cuffs the reason is because they will all become tangled. I likely wouldn’t do this with most jewelry for one reason or another. Anything with a smooth surface could get scratched like gold or silver bands or bracelets, soft stones like pearls, or items could literally fall out or get scooped out by kids or four legged friends. In my house if something fell out, I would hear four little paws hit the floor running and it would become a toy likely to end up in a pile of litter or lost. I left a ring out once somewhere – crazy to realize I THINK I left it out on the bathroom counter in a dish but really not sure. I realized it was missing and knew it had turned into a toy and would show  up eventually. And it did, randomly on the floor in my closet which is in a completely different room! Toy for sure. Yet they have more real toys than I can count….

A quick note on the issue of tangling. A simple google search of how to untangle necklaces shows articles, Wiki entries and of course YouTube videos. And it must be a popular search because google auto-filled it in while I was typing! Take your pick on what works best for you. I saw a few that talked about baby oil and straight pins. If anyone has tried this let me know. I’m guessing the straight pins are to stab yourself with when you totally lose your sh*t trying to untangle them. But if tangling is a problem, simply google it and try what most appeals to you. I don’t have baby oil lying around and I’m not sure I’d want to put it on my jewelry but it sounds like it works.

necklacesSo here are a few possibilities for necklace storage in particular. Mine are hanging in my stand up jewelry box on the side “door” compartment, in individual boxes in my stand up jewelry box, laid out in my small jewelry box that literally only holds five larger necklaces any longer (was a gift from my parents back in the day) or in boxes laid out on cotton in the end table in my room. When I say “my room” it’s one of our spare bedrooms in which I have the closet because the hubs has the closet in our bedroom. My room also includes the treadmill – cool right? Well it also includes the litter boxes. PLURAL. Therefore, another reason for me to keep everything stored either in my stand up jewelry box, jewelry box or end table. It helps keep the litter dust off of my stuff. UGH.

In my former post about storage and travel I mentioned that storage is personal. What is it that you want? Do you want to see it all so you can easily decide what you want to wear? Obviously for me I want everything protected from litter dust (ugh my clothes and handbags!). There are different items you can find to hang your necklaces on if you want to see them. I have seen different items at Marshalls and Home Goods. sam necklaces
Thanks to Sam for sending me this photo of how she stores her necklaces. You can also keep them in the boxes in which they came in if you bought them from a store that gives you a box or some kind of packaging. I have mentioned previously that I am a packaging JUNKIE. I love boxes, baggies whatever. Sometimes…BAGGIES COME IN BOXES. Oh good Lord you have no idea. I keep it ALL. And I LOVE IT ALL. The box or baggie is the vessel in which the piece of jewelry was transported to me.  Given to me. It has as much meaning almost as much as the piece. Yes call me crazy but I love packaging.

First, you must decide what kind of space you have. I don’t have space to have my jewelry displayed and I don’t want litter dust all over everything so INSIDE something – jewelry box or table – is right for me. Those who don’t have to worry about litter dust or dust in general (my house seems dusty anyway) then yes I would totally have everything out on display. Some day I dream of a walk in closet for this! I have some really fun necklaces that I love but because they are packed away in boxes in my jewelry box I don’t always remember them! Recently, I noticed this so I literally try go through the boxes almost every other day. I also label the boxes so when I open the necklace/bracelet drawer I can more easily see what is what. This is a big recommendation I have for using boxes. Luckily I have a lot of white boxes that can easily be written on with a regular pen. If you’re boxes can’t easily be written on because of what they are made of consider a label maker! This is an OCD person’s dream! I can say that because I LOVE organization and claim to be OCD when it comes to organization and planning. It really makes me happy which again leads me to say I need another stand up jewelry box. One for gold and one for silver. This would make me so happy! I thought this is what I was getting for my birthday because I’ve talked about it a lot. But alas, it was not to be. I received quite a few items from Victoria’s Secret. EEEEEK! Freaks me out to say and freaked me out even more to go in to return everything – only because everything was all the wrong sizes. I did need some new undergarments so it wasn’t all wasted. But let’s just say my very kind and thoughtful husband (?) got a large credit on his credit card and I’m pretty sure the credit would cover the cost of that second jewelry box. Such a shame that I don’t think he reads my blog. 🙂


May Your Martinis Be Strong….

It should come as no surprise at this point that I like a good dirty martini. It might come amethyst_2as a surprise that I’ve only been drinking them for less than two years. I noted before that I do NOT like olives so it’s somewhat ironic. This past week was my birthday so I enjoyed more than one. We enjoyed a few in Mexico, too. Seems like the wrong drink for Mexico but we definitely had some good ones.

So for some reason when I was recapping this week and the last few months I had a thought….May your martinis be strong and your faith be stronger. This blog stems from bigger visions for my jewelry journey. I’m not sure where the journey will go but I have learned to just have faith in whatever the universe has in store for you. Or at least try to have faith. I am likely the most impatient person I know. I get it honestly from my father. These Mexico trips have certainly taught me that I am definitely his daughter. We have gone at it a few times to say the least! So being on a journey in which you’d like to think you know where you are going and are in control only to come to find out you definitely are not has been a weeeeee bit challenging for me. But then I think what’s the rush? You know what they say….slow down you’re at the beach. I seem to have hit road block after road block. Actually it’s more like speed bump after speed bump. Again, okay universe I get it. The flip side is that I am a planner. I like to make a list and check things off. So being prepared is important and these little time outs force me to reevaluate, rethink and try to be creative in how I can make this little side hustle become a reality.

Okay I’m a little off since this is supposed to be a jewelry blog. Are you getting a taste of what it’s like inside my head? I mentioned it was my birthday which means….martinis!!! Oh wait I mean AMETHYST!

Photo source: UCL Mathematical and Physical Sciences

I adore my birthstone. It’s a precious stone that is a variety of quartz. When I think about the color purple – not the movie – literally the color – I realize I like it yet I it’s not my favorite. Let’s face it though it’s the color of royalty and crown royal. Word. Because it’s my birthstone I am a bit obsessed with it. I have lots or rings (duh), a few necklaces and bracelets, a few pairs of earrings. It has meaning to me. Back to my book Crystals by Jennie Harding, amethyst was used in royal jewels such as crowns and in healing it helps open the crown chakras and third-eye. Get it? Crowns and royal. Now it all makes sense. Okay not really but one ironic meaning of amethyst is that the word is actually derived from an Ancient Greek work meaning not drunk. It is said to protect it’s wearer from drunkenness. I mean the irony. Are you lol’ing yet?


Jewelry Storage and Travel

Since I’m traveling I figure it’s a good time to talk about jewelry storage and packing jewelry for travel. I must admit I was more excited to pack my jewelry for this trip than I was my clothes but actually that really shouldn’t surprise me or anyone else. So as I sit on the beach writing this in advance of posting it on Saturday I dream of what I have packed back at the condo. And maybe what we’ll find today on the beach! There is surely no shortage of sellers and I was just asked if I wanted to buy a necklace….No gracias.

I think jewelry storage is personal. You have to think about what’s important to you. Do you want easy access? Do you want to be able to see everything? Do you want everything in one place? I struggle with this right now. I have a stand up jewelry case that won’t fit everything. I would like to have one for gold and one for silver because organization is important to me. All of my gold is kept here. To make room for new gold ring purchases, I bought a case for my silver rings that sits on a jewelry box that holds some necklaces that sits on an end table that has a drawer that also holds more pieces and important boxes that held jewelry I’ve received. This drives me crazy. Having two stand up cases would be ideal for me I just have to make the investment. In the one case I have I try to keep all of my rings that aren’t real in little plastic baggies. I think it helps to keep them from turning. Side note – if you mix real and fashion like I do, it’s important to take off any rings that aren’t real when you wash your hands or have your hands in water or when using lotion. Nicole, the private jeweler behind
@ringconcierge, recently posted a photo of one of her jewelry drawers. I asked her if she had the storage made to fit the drawer and she commented that she got it at The Container Store and you can fit them to your drawer’s specs – genius! Was just asked again if I want to buy a necklace…again…No gracias.

And again…No gracias. This is what it’s like sitting on the beach in Puerto Vallarta. I’m not complaining! And then there’s the muffin man who just stopped by. We buy fresh jalapeño, ham and cheese pastries from him just about every day. On the beach. Two for 60 pesos. That’s about $3. LOVE IT!

Okay back to jewelry. For travel I purchased two pieces. One is a small box and the other is a fold up piece that kind of looks like a wallet. They are both small with limited space but I found them really cheap at Nordstrom Rack. I think I paid $5 a piece for them. I’ve used the box before but I realized on this trip that when I put my rings in the ring section, the mirror above hits them.

This isn’t good for stones or bands that could get scratched so I put a few little plastic baggies in between them. These travel pieces need to be small so you can pack them in your carry on if you’re flying. And I still recommend using baggies for rings even if you are packing them in your travel box. I love the little box but I think I’ll be on the lookout for something else for rings after noticing the mirror issue. In the meantime, I’ll use the baggies or a few soft tissues to keep the mirror from hitting them filled

One of my other favorite Instagram jewelry accounts is another private jeweler,
@stephaniegottlieb who has also talked about necklace storagejewelry storage. She travels with GORGEOUS pieces that are ALL REAL. She packs everything in baggies and keeps them together by category: rings, bracelets, earrings, etc. I’ve also read that packing necklaces in little baggies with the end of the chain sealed out of the bag will help keep them from tangling.

The baggies seem so easy and then I guess you just pack them in something soft to keep them safe. I also don’t find the roll up travel piece I bought as effective. I put some earrings in the one deep compartment but for me that was all I was felt comfortable putting in there. Maybe if I knew how someone else used it I’d feel better about using it.

Now that I think about the baggies that is actually exactly how I travel home from Mexico with gifts and personal finds. The guys put pieces in little baggies – some plastic and some knit. WARNING somewhat mild political joke coming… So these guys down here really know what they’re doing. If you need me I’ll be with Juan and Eggar (noted in a previous post) on this side of the wall. 


The Engagement Story – cont. from last post

The ring has been chosen. The diamond has to be set so we still don’t have it. We decide to head to Santa Barbara for the weekend to see friends there. It’s about a two hour drive north right through LA. It’s Friday night and it’s rush hour. My youngest cousin has just gotten engaged. Frank is trapped. A huge argument ensues. Is this EVER GOING TO HAPPEN? I’m seriously going to die of old age here.

We get our sh*t together by the time we get to our friends’ house. Okay by we I mean me let’s be real here. Saturday is beautiful and we head out for the day. I’m pretty sure we head out to do some wine tasting. We then hit this cool bar that if I remember correctly, is built into the side of a mountain. Next stop home. But not before another fight ensues. To my dismay I believe sure there were tears. This one wasn’t my fault. Clearly I had been overserved. Again, I got my sh*t together and we enjoyed the rest of our visit.

Sunday we arrive back in Huntington Beach. We’re getting settled and I check the messages. You know back when you had a landline for your home. There is a message for a Mr. Frank Green, “sir, your ring is finished and ready to be picked up.” Oh my God, what do I do!? Besides first doing a little happy dance of course. I panicked. I told him there was a message for him and left it at that.

He checked the message and I heard a few expletives spoken under his breath. I was grinning from ear to ear. He made up some story and I just went along with it. It was finally only a matter of time.

I’m sitting at work one day and I get a call from Frank. “When are you coming home?” Uhhh, the same time I come home every day. “Okay, well just hurry home because I want to go out and do something tonight.” Like what? We don’t DO things. “I don’t know maybe we’ll play tennis or something.” Sure, whatever. Another call comes in while I’m driving home. “Where are you?” In the car, sitting in traffic. Just like every other day. I mean it’s California have you forgotten? Traffic is everywhere. “Okay, just checking.” About 25 minutes later, yep, another call. “So, where are you now?” In the car, sitting in traffic just in a different location. “Okay, well hurry home.” I’ll be sure to let everyone around me know I need to get home faster than they do. “I want to head out as soon as you get home so do you have to go to the bathroom or do anything?”

Obviously at this point I know something is going on. I have a feeling this is it. And per the usual I’m going nowhere fast. I finally get home, change and we head out. We lived about a mile from Pacific Coast Highway and we are heading that way. When we get there we start heading south. I have no idea what we’re doing but I’m not going to lie. I see the ring box in his pants pocket because I’m a woman and I’m using my CIA spy skills that we all inherently have. I may not be able to tell a lie but I can sleuth with the best of them.

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HB dog beach

We pull into one of the beach turn offs. It happens to be the Huntington Beach dog beach. He’s got a bottle of bubbles and some plastic cups. We fancy. As we walk out to find a place to watch the sunset I remember being super nervous and saying, watch out for dog sh*t….be careful where you sit. We sit and drink a little bubbly while watching the sun set behind the clouds which in California is really the smog. Honestly, it doesn’t matter because it always makes for a beautiful sunset.

promFinally, he pulls out the box and says something along the lines of how he’s loved me since the day I wore fuchsia; a nod to my prom dress way back in 1990-something – and we’ll leave it at that. He pulls out the ring and I can see it’s sitting on this adorable little white ring pillow. I don’t even really see the ring because I’m so smitten with the presentation! (That will be another post sometime in the future – jewelry packaging.) He finishes the rest of the proposal and takes the little ring pillow out and shows it to me. It’s not a pillow. It’s a freakin’ Rolaids. Excuse me? He proceeds to tell me that he needed something to give to the jeweler so they’d know my ring size. He said I’d know if something was missing from my jewelry box so out of every inanimate object he compared to my other rings, my ring finger is in fact the size of a Rolaids. I finally put on the ring that I had been waiting for, for so long. Then I looked at him and said, you probably need to eat that ring sizer now, huh?

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My Engagement Ring Confessions

Okay, it’s probably no surprise that I love diamonds. I am easily distracted by their sparkle. What may be surprising is my first confession. Until it was really time to start looking, I wasn’t interested in them, for me. Like at all. I was much more intrigued by emeralds. But don’t even question for a second that once it was time to start looking – I was all in in under 3 seconds flat. At first my dream ring was an emerald cut diamond with an emerald cut emerald on each side. Then I came back down to earth and really started thinking about what cut I wanted. Enter Chicken of the Sea.

Newlyweds: Jessica and Nick was a hit and I didn’t miss an episode. Jessica Simpson was young, beautiful, and a complete ditz for the entire world to see. She was real and I got the biggest kick out of her and her goofiness. You’ve gotta love a girl who can laugh at herself. And of course through it all she was sporting a beautiful wedding ring set.  Nick proposed with a 4 carat pear cut diamond with pear cut side stones. That was it. I was obsessed. Confession number two, yes, the person who asked if the tuna she was eating was chicken, was my inspiration for wanting a pear cut diamond.

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Our first time looking was in a lovely little jewelry store at a mall in Huntington Beach, California, where we were living at the time. They told us they’d check their other stores and find some rings for us to come back and check out. A few days later we went back. I was ecstatic. They showed us a 3 carat solitaire set in gold. YEP. DONE. SWIPE THAT CREDIT CARD. WE OUT. They also showed us a 2 ct. loose stone. One of the saleswomen took me across the way so Frank could talk cost. I was sure we were leaving with something. Maybe I wouldn’t see the box, but I thought he was buying something. I was wrong. Frank wasn’t too pleased with the fact that they showed us stones that were apparently larger than he had asked to see. OOPS on their part. GENIUS I thought…..

engagement ringAnd so the search went on. We ended up at another jewelry store and we looked at loose stones and settings. It was fun. Not quite as fun as looking at that 3 ct. ring but fun none-the-less. So, if I was going to look at smaller center stones, there were going to be side stones. Maybe my ring wasn’t going to be one big diamond that crossed my entire finger but it would be a few smaller diamonds that crossed my entire finger. Tapered baguettes it was. In the end close to Jessica but not exactly. Surely, just as beautiful.

Flash forward to moving home a little while later when I realized I chosen the exact same ring that my mother in law has. EXACT SAME RING. Pear cut. Baguettes. Gold. Pretty sure though she knows Chicken of the Sea is tuna.

I love engagement ring settings so please comment here if you had a say in choosing your ring and if so why you chose what you did or were you completely surprised?! Or post to the Instagram post! If you don’t have your dream ring yet tell me what it is. I’d love to hear your story!

UP NEXT: the actual engagement.